Issue Nine

Fourth Quarter 2011

SHIFTING YOUR THOUGHTS FROM “WHAT IS WRONG” TO “WHAT IS RIGHT” IN ORDER
TO MOVE FORWARD

Focusing on or getting attached to “what is wrong” in a relationship downwardly shifts the energy of the relationship and those involved. This
focus either depletes the positive energy in the relationship and of the involved individuals or limits the growth, benefit, and gift of the relationship. Within an organization (a business, volunteer, or family unit),
even those not directly involved in the relationship are negatively impacted. Consciously or not, they experience the catabolic effect of others focusing on what is wrong in their relationships.

Choosing to switch the focus to “what is right” lessens judgment, stress, guilt, and even anger that is created by only seeing what is wrong. Energy
moves up, and we are able to experience the relationship more fully. Even in this more positive energetic state, we may determine there are aspects of the relationship we would like to change. But these changes will be viewed through the lens of anabolic energy and be seen as opportunities to grow and develop rather than through the lens of judgment and victimhood.

KEY QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

• Which relationships at work or at home do you view with the lens of “what is wrong?” Describe what is wrong? What trends and similarities do you see?

• If “what is wrong” is one side of the coin, what is on the other side? How might this other side of the coin be what is right in the relationship? What strategies can you implement that will bring this new side of the coin into the relationship?

• How willing, ready, and able are you to change your view of what is wrong in your relationships? What are 3 simple steps you could take to begin to view the relationships more positively?